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Do You Share?

I used to think that I was good at sharing - until I started talking to my friends. Apparently they share much more than I do.

Do you share . . .

a bathroom with our husband? Hell no! The key to a happy marriage is separate bathrooms :-) We have an older home that has a bathroom in the master bedroom, but it’s just a regular bathroom - identical to the main bathroom right outside in the hall. In  our previous house, Hubby got the master bathroom, and I got to share the main bathroom with a potty training boy! Ya - that was fun. This time around, I get the master bathroom, and Hubby shares with the kiddos.

an iTunes library? Ya - not a chance. We like the same music for the most part, but I want to be in CONTROL of my stuff ;-) It also seems that men are incapable of rating their songs. Seriously, that’s one of the coolest features . . . rate the song and get automatic play lists. There is no way Hubby and I would rate songs the same.

a car? Um . . . a little bit. When the Jeep is here, I drive it, because I love my 10 year old Jeep! Maybe it’s because I’m nostalgic . . . it’s the vehicle we bought right before we had Dude. I leave the new Highlander for Hubby to drive. Unless he goes flying - then my beloved Jeep gets parked at the airport for a week at a time, and I weep and pout until I get it back. And speaking of sharing cars, I LOVE to drive . . . road trips get me all excited, so I don’t share the keys to the cars very often at all ;-)

an email address? This one I absolutely do NOT understand! How can you share an email with your husband, or anyone for that matter? That’s my secret way of planning things behind his back ;-) Heck, each of my kiddos have their own email address! They’re not allowed to use it unless we’re sitting there with them, and they’re not allowed to email anyone I haven’t already put in their address book (Mom, Dad, Grandmas, Grandpas, cousins, aunts, uncles, Queens, etc.). I think it’s important that we teach them early that they are in fact entitled to some privacy, but they also need to understand all the crap that is out there on the Internet and learn how to be safe. There’s no keeping the kiddos off the Internet, so we might as well work with ‘em.

I don’t want you to think I don’t like to share at all . . . I am more than happy to share the cooking, laundry, homework, and poop scooping with my Hubby. See, I’m not totally selfish ;-)

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  1. Shirley says:

    Do I share with my hubby? I really have never given any thought to it until now. We definitely don’t share vehicles…he has his car and pickup and I have my car. He takes care of all maintenance on his vehicles and I take care of all maintenance on my vehicle. We will listen to the same kind of music about 60% of the time. Our choice of radio talk shows (listened to only while driving) is thousands of miles apart…in fact, we drove to Rochester one night this week and that was a source of irritation because I felt the radio talk show he had on was absolutely worthless as it contained no…and I mean no…information that I would consider worthy of anyone’s time. We do share a bathroom but that hasn’t presented any problems for us. Afterall, two of us sharing a bathroom seems like a luxury when I think back to the 90’s when we had a home with one bathroom and six of us using it! We do not share control of the TV’s. My hubby controls the TV shows we watch which on the surface seems unfair. However, I think we would both agree that I control many of the other things in our lives and so I think this is his way of having some control over something and that is fine with me. And, if I get to a point where I am really frustrated with it I’ll just go into the livingroom and watch TV and then he becomes more reasonable about it because he doesn’t like to watch TV alone…he wants me to watch TV with him. Clothes - we definitely don’t share clothes. Household chores…I take care of the house and he takes care of the finished garage, the big shed, and the yard work (with the exceptions of my multiple flower gardens and the vegetable garden which I take care of). But, he is a very neat and organized person and in terms of housework I have NEVER had to pick anything up after him which I appreciate. We definitely share our bodies and we figure we need to stay together because no one else would be interested in sharing our bodies! Love…Mom

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